3 Things Your Girlfriend is Not Telling You in Bed

December 20, 2007

Women can be amongst the most chatty, talkative creatures on the face of the planet for the better part of the day, yet – when sharing intimate moments with the guy they love, can oftentimes clam up completely when it comes to communicating their inner wants, feelings and secret desires. Be it a sudden case of shyness, or modesty or just uncertainty about the reaction they are going to get if they open up a little bit, many of the women I know will confess to me that the men in their lives are woefully inadequate in satisfying their needs when it comes to those very special shared moments..:-) And most often, the guy in their life never knows they are feeling this way until WAY too late. When is it too late? When the woman you love has a proverbial foot out the door and is already searching for someone who will take care of her most intimate needs, wants and desires. Now, I can’t really share ALL of these things here, but I can give you a few simple hints on just a few simple things YOUR girl is probably not telling you in bed, and you can fix them fast!

Talk to her in bed. Now, this doesn’t have to mean EXACTLY what it sounds like…Some women are more shall we say – expressive than others in their intimate space..:-) But ALL women want their man to talk to them, to be expressive and share the magic of the moment with as much expressiveness as you can. If you DON’T do this, when the girls get together and talk about our guys that DO, trust me when I tell you, her jealously at what she’s missing will have her curious to look elsewhere.
Take your time! Now this is a cliché for a reason guys..:-) Women’s bodies are different than yours are, and if you can’t appreciate the subtleties of how a woman warms up to your body and the magical motion the moment, well, you are going to have one VERY frustrated, disappointed and exasperated woman on your hands. EVERY woman knows the guy who rushes through lovemaking like it’s a race and leaves behind a wondering, wishing woman who yearns for a lover with a slow hand, just like the song says..:-) If you are more like speed racer than Enrique Latunaga’, your girl is probably fantasizing about another man when you fall asleep!
Endurance is Excellent! Ok guys, this one is really, REALLY key..:-) In combination with the above two, you are going to have a woman who really, shall we say, WANTS you to stay awake..:-) There is nothing worse than being with a man who simply falls asleep WAY too early. The closer to daybreak you get, the better lover you are. It’s really quite that simple. I had one friend of mine tell me that she used to consider throwing cold water on her boyfriend after midnight just to keep him up! Don’t make this mistake – (as your girlfriend will eventually find a man who will – trust me, they are out there!)

And of course, as always…there are more. But these are three I could write about here..:-) The spicier ones will have to wait for those of you who are ready for more. But keep these three things in mind next time you meet a beautiful woman, and bring her into your hoven of heaven – and I promise you, she will believe she is really there – and so will you!