How to Be Better in Bed in 3 Simple Steps!

January 15, 2008

You know what is really funny? Some of my most confident and secure friends who are men are still never TOTALLY sure they are satisfying the woman (or women!) in their lives when it comes to intimate action in the bedroom. (or wherever else you are having fun..:-) Being a phenomenal lover is not a natural gift, no matter how good looking you are, rock hard body you have or how good of a talker you may be….Being great in bed is a skill – and even if you are clumsy and cumbersome right now, you can learn to become a better lover no differently than learning a new language – although in this case, you’ll be learning the language of love! And remember when reading the following three tips, PRACTICE makes perfect, so if you don’t have someone to practice on, that should be step #1..:-)

Slow Down! Nothing turns a woman off faster than a guy who can’t wait for the main course. Once in a while this is good, but for the most part, women LOVE the tension that develops as you work your way through the appetizers..;-) This means take your time, don’t rush…And make her savor the experience, rather than wonder what happened when it ends WAY too quickly!
Understand her body. This is SO important, especially when you are with someone that is more than a fling, or an occasional hook up. If you are with a woman you love, or someone you really like a lot even, it is REALLY important to learn the parts of her body that are most sensitive and receptive to your touch. Every woman’s body is different, and each of us likes different things in bed – it is important to know what makes YOUR girl squirm and weak, not what your old girlfriend liked – or someone else you were recently with. Treat her like the VERY first woman you have been with while learning her body and the kingdom of incredible passion will open to your touch.
Communication is Key! Guys, this is quite simply the most important part of becoming a better lover. Why? Well, even if you are doing things TOTALLY wrong for your girl in bed, but are OPEN enough to ask…..She will tell you. And a big part of learning any new skill is feedback! Don’t let her fool you, even if she is a “quiet” type, she WANTS you to ask what she wants…otherwise, you may feel like you are turning her on, yet in reality. she may be thinking about someone else who did. Ouch!

So communication one, while I have it at number three, is really the most important part of becoming the kind of lover that will make your woman melt with passion, lust and an insatiable desire to have YOU as often as possible! Put in concert with the first two, and you are going to play her body like a maestro of magnificent magic, and you WILL be the kind of lover than women fight for – I promise!