Help! What are Some Good Opening Lines for Online Dating?

May 29, 2008

One of the toughest things to navigate well in the challenging online dating marketplace is to come up with a good opening line. They say first impressions mean everything, right? With this in mind, it certainly seems like you better start off strong if you've got any hope at all of getting a response! And remember, the likelihood is, if you found the person you want to write attractive, there are probably a bunch of other people who have as well! Let's look at a few really good ideas that work well for, and on me!

1) Be Sincere. Whatever you do, don't send a form letter responses that sounds like you cut and pasted the exact same template to 63 other profiles you've found attractive. Trust me, even if she likes you, the perceived slight will be enough NOT to generate a response.

2) Be Specific. Very important! As the natural opposite of sending out a bulk email to every attractive person you see, VERY specific opening lines are sure winners! Why? It shows you read the persons profile. If you start out with something that says - "hey, not only did I READ what you had to say, I also share the exact same feeling as you on "xyz". This is doubly smart - you show common interest and of course, that you were interested enough to read the whole thing. ( Another secret tip? Make that thing you "notice" at the END of the profile, further reinforcing you were CAPTIVATED for the full 2000 words..;-)

3) Be Gentle. Yes, even if you think she might like it rough! Do not start out with some borderline obscene, outlandish commentary on her outfit in picture number 4, or make reference to some thinly veiled she MAY have made about something of a more intimate nature….Just yet! More guys than they will EVER know have completely blown their chances with a totally HOT woman on account of this one simple social fop a - bad manners and bad timing to show them off!

Remember, she is online dating for the very same reason you are. To have fun, meet some cool people and finally find a great guy like you - I promise!