How Reliable Is Body Language? Interesting Commentary From Around the Web
December 31, 2008
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How To Pick an Engagement Ring Your Girl Will Love
October 12, 2008
Here is a nice little article on how to pick the right engagement ring for your girl. The simple truth is when I got engaged (the first time..:-) I had absolutely NO idea how to go out and pick the right stone. I learned a lot in the process, yet - STILL managed to F*ck up the whole process enough to piss off my girlfriend at the time. Of course, this turned out to be a blessing in disguise as she was one crazy wench and thank god she's LONG gone now..:-) But if you're looking for a few quick and easy rules to make sure you pick out a ring that blings…..check out the full article at the link below!
Just for Men: Three Tips to a Thrilling Engagement Ring | WooMeOver Bling Blog
Tags: justfor men tips, men tips
8 Bad Apologies Women Make to Their Boyfriends: Things NOT to Say After You've Screwed Up!
September 11, 2008
These are ALL pretty funny…and a bit of the turn the tables sort of thing on the men who are normally more likely to be making these sorts of excuses..:-) You can check out all 8, and the full story at the link below!
1. The Blame Shifter: Witness the number one worst way to say sorry of all time: “I’m sorry you feel that way.” Interesting game plan—blaming the person you’re ostensibly making amends to for getting rightfully pissed off at your horrendous behavior. If you’re not sorry for your actions, don’t apologize. If you are genuinely repentant, take off the training bra, squeeze ‘em into the underwire, and take responsibility like a woman. 2. Lady Liquor Made Me Do It: So you had a little too much to drink at a friend’s birthday party and ended up making out in the bathroom with the bartender. When your boyfriend finds out, it’s probably best to just own up to the mistake rather than say, “But I was drunk!” Those five shots of tequila only gave you the courage to do something stupid and regretful, it didn’t actually do it for you.
Eight Bad Apologies | The Frisky
Tags: datingadvice, online dating tips
For Lonely Farmers Only: Farmers Weekly Launches Online Dating Service
June 2, 2008
And you thought those new niche sites targeting ONLY hispanic women who love short asian men was considered NICHE dating…didn't you? Well, now there is a dating site set up STRICTLY for farmers and their flock. (no pun intended..;-) This looks to be launching in the UK according to the press release and site info - although who knows, Kansas may not be far off! You can check out the full story at the link below:
Online dating from Farmers Weekly Interactive is the new service to help you find a companion or love in the countryside.Thanks to a link-up with Muddy Matches, FWi can now offer you the chance to search for your perfect partner or friend with similar - or different! - interests to your own."This is a really exciting development for FWi," says online editor Julian Gairdner. "Over the past 18 months we've been developing new products, services and content on the site. FWMuddyMatches is a new venture to help us appeal to a wider rural audience."The web is already a vital business tool for many users familiar with the Farmers Weekly brand. Now we can extend our reach to more people with
a greater range of interests over and above pure business needs."Muddy Matches' Lucy Reeves said she was delighted to be part of this new initiative. "Coming from a farming background ourselves, we know how important it is for farmers to meet like-minded 'muddy' people who understand that farming is not just a job but a way of life and that the hours are often irregular and antisocial.
Farmers Weekly Interactive launches online dating service
Tags: onlinedating, niche dating online
1 Top Tip for Online Daters: The Not So Sexy Secret to Online Success
June 2, 2008
One More Top Tip for Online Daters: The Not So Sexy Secret to Online Success
Let's take a quick look at one of the biggest and most frequent questions we get via email these days…MOSTLY from people who are just starting to get motoring on the online dating scene. (what took you so long people??)
(And no….don't let them scare you…there is NO bigger risk finding love on the internet as there is at the corner bar after 8 shots of tequila and a basket of bad chicken wings, and that's just for HAPPY hour..;-)
So if you are just getting started with picking the perfect online dating to meet your elusive soul mate, keep this simple but potently powerful personality tip in mind:
Don't take ANYTHING personally.
People have STUFF. Just because you posted your very best picture of yourself looking absolutely fab on the beach last summer, with a killer tan and in that little itty bitty bikini and he STILL didn't write back….it does NOT mean you need to re-evaluate every nuance of your self image and wardrobe selection. People often use the online enviorment to escape and exercise their own agendas. 
What do I mean by this? It's quite simple: Not everyone is as available as you THINK they are (or how they make themselves out to appear) so STOP taking EVERYTHING so damn seriously! I'm fed up with seeing friends (especially FEMALE friends) quit good dating sites simply because they let their feelings (and egos) get hurt. Keep a positive attitude and keep motoring people - you eye should be on the finish line…and that's getting out, and getting off with love in hand!
Good luck, and get going…Summer is here and there is NO better time than to find love than right now!
How to Tell If A Girl Really Likes You - Surefire Signs She Digs You
June 1, 2008
Guys are really funny. While most of them like to look cool, calm and collected - most of you are reduced to rubble when you meet a girl you really like, and aren't sure if she's feeling the same way. Yes, it's true - girls are more emotional, touchy feely and sentimental, but when it comes to simple flirting and conversational jujitsu, most men get tied up in knots when it comes to chatting it up with a really attractive woman. I've had some really funny conversations with friends after leaving a bar or a restaurant about some of the stuff that guys will say while hunting for a phone number, or a compliment, and to say that we giggle over some of the goofy ways some of you try to score, well that would be a huge understatement! So here are a few things YOU should look out for when you come across a REALLY hot girl you really want to get to know, but aren't sure if she is feeling quite the same way.
- Body Language: This is numero Uno, boys! I can spot a woman who is hot for a guy from across the room or a mile away. If she leans in, self touches her hair or, the MAJOR league giveaway…..occasionally BRUSHES your knee while making a point in conversation - you are in luck, she is really interested! Don't let your friends (or your fear) tell you differently. Body language is a huge part of flirting, and will often tell you she wants more of you before her words will, so keep a keen eye out for this tell tale good sign.
- Playing it cool: Yes, we do this too..:-) If she's got that cool eyed stare going in the other direction while you are chatting with her friends, this could be a good thing. I've done this, and so have lots of the girls I know! It's a subtle difference between TOTALLY disinterested and staring at the wall, and pretending to be interested in that NASCAR race up on the TV bar! Here is a good way to check her "real interest" level. If you are chatting with her friends and she is giving you the cool routine - mention that you have to get back to your friends, or are heading home pretty soon. If she looks away from the TV, even for a second - BINGO - she digs you!
Now you need to make sure to work her in to the conversation so you too can see about getting something going! - Here is another big one: If you are at a bar and she makes ANY mention of someone you were talking to earlier in the night, or if she sees another group of women scoping you and your friends out and makes an insulting comment about them (or you if you hook up with them) you are getting those JEALOUSLY glands kicked into high gear. Remember, no matter how hot you think she is, she is just as insecure as everyone else. Want to be bold and take a chance, let her know there is NO WAY you would think about hooking up with anyone else in the place if you've got even a small chance of getting her digits. You are going to make her feel like the most special girl in the room (big points for you) AND show you are assertive and know what you want. I don't care how many Oprah episodes you may have seen that say otherwise - we ALL want a bold and assertive guy who knows what he wants and likes to take a risk! I know I do!
So next time you are out - or even with that girl who lives in the apartment next door, look out for these simple signs she is in to you. The ball is in your court!
Who May Be Taking Online Dating a LITTLE too Seriously?
June 1, 2008
Don't you just hate these industry stuffed shirt types? I just came across this post in my feed reader this morning about online dating demographics, details and a whole host of other commentary on how the finding love experience can be improved for all. Now I know this is sort of an online dating trade kind of rag - more for the commerce types I guess, but jeez…what a whiny, complaining nerdski! Why can't my dating site do this? Why can't my dating site do that? What a downer. 
Get out there and have some fun you nudnick. You've already depressed the hell out of me and it's only 11 am. You can read the whole story at the link below.
Think about the search process. I enter in my search criteria or fire up a saved search, which I probably created months ago and have no idea what the search parameters are.Browsing the results, I choose to click on a few people. Of those, I may email one or two and add a few more to my hotlist. What does a dating site learn about the people I click on in search results? How does that information relate to the people I actually email?Why can’t my search habits be used as fodder for emails from my dating site telling me to try new things? Why can’t Match create a custom Saved Search based on how I use the site, restricting, relaxing or adding new search criteria based on my usage patterns?How come I never get an email telling me to revise my saved searches? Why do I have to seek out and struggle through a generic FAQ/Help/Magazine to read editorial content and the same damn “10 steps towards better online dating.”
Dating Sites Don’t Know Their Customers (Why Search Is Broken) | Online Dating Insider
Tags: onlinedating news
Do Cheesy Pick Up Lines Really Work?
May 30, 2008
Do Cheesy Pick Up Lines Really Work? The 411 You Need to Know Before Blowing Your Chances
So you are heading out for a night of fun and partying with your friends and pretty set on making a connection before the night is out. You watch a few of your friends hook up with old flames, co-workers, etc - and you are left in the corner just holding your bottle of beer. Not being one brimming with overconfidence when it comes to approaching women cold in a bar setting, you slowly start to mentally recite all of those old, ingrained cheesy pickup lines silently searching for the right one……
Sound familiar? Well - if it does, don't worry, you aren't alone! Most women have heard every bad, corny cheesy pickup line invented since the original caveman uttered - "come here often" to whoever it was that caveman hit on back in the good old days.:-) But are they used so much because they work, or not? The answer WILL NOT surprise you.
Cheesy pick up lines work. But only on cheesy women! How high your standards are is a better question! Look, if you approach a group of girls and throw out a few self depreciating lines straight out of a bad pick up movie, yes we are going to laugh WITH you, not at you. Everyone understands breaking the ice is not easy. But if you come sauntering over with that come hither stare, no matter how attractive you may be - if the first words out of your mouth are obnoxious and cliché, guess what? You aren't going to be making any major moves on me or my friends, I'll tell you that! Might that work on the girl hanging on the bar at 2 AM when they are mopping the floor? Probably. But while you rehearse the bad lines, guys without half of your attractiveness and ambition are getting much further using simple friendly charm and sincerity.
The bottom line is if you are going to use a cheesy pick up line, make it funny, have fun with it and be able to laugh at yourself when you make the approach. Even the oldest line in the book coming from someone who doesn't take himself too seriously and can laugh at the awkwardness of meeting new people will appear charming, charismatic and generally the kind of person we want to get to know better. And that is the point of using it in the first place, right? Right..:-)
How to Impress a Beautiful Woman - 1 Easy Way to Make Her Weak
May 28, 2008
Ok, guys. So you've got a REALLY hot woman on your mind, huh? You are probably thinking she has no idea who you are, or if she does - that you feel the way that you do, right? Well, I'm here to tell you that you are WRONG on both counts! Most beautiful women have a really acute awareness of all the cute guys around, and while she may not be interested in you ( yet..:-), don't for a split second think she doesn't know you are around - EVEN if she never says hi or looks your way. Let's work to change that, starting right now. If I've said this once, I've said it 100 times, but this one simply works, and does it in SHORT order. Let's say you've got a beautiful woman at the office that you just cant' stop thinking about, ok? Or - in your apartment complex. Chances are, LOTS of other guys are thinking about her too.
Here is what I want you to do…
First of all, go out and buy a few classic novels, or books on philosophy - stuff that NO ONE else is reading. It would be ideal if you would read them, but of course it not even 100% necessary as long as you get the cliff notes idea of what they are about. ( Don't worry, she won't know a THING about the book anyway - so you can always fake it if you have to). Then I want you to start opening up and being more FRIENDLY and approachable. The key to this strategy is approachability, in combination with radiating an air of MYSTERY - which you don't need to read here is just about the most appealing quality in a man like you. You need to be around her a lot - and be friendly but just a WEE bit standoffish, and always seem engaged in your reading. If it's an office environment, have the book in a prominent place on your desk. Eastern Philosophy is a perennial favorite, as are some of the French philosophers.
Take a look at some pictures of the 60's flower power movement. What do you see in almost all of the pics? Exactly - one striking beautiful woman after the next. Think these women were going home with the football player types? Think again. Of course there is a lot more to this than just this simple addition to your arsenal. But this very simple, and very easy "accessory" in combination with a friendly demeanor will make you FAR more intriguing and curious to the beautiful woman that you've got your eye on….I promise!
The One Absolutely Fool Proof Way to Make a Woman Fall in Love With You - And Fast!
May 27, 2008
It still amazes me how many guys still just don't get this one. If you have spent any on an online dating site, and ANY time whatsoever checking out the profiles and essay answers of the beautiful women you are interested in….you will see one reoccurring theme come up in almost ALL of their answers regarding what they want in their man: A sense of humor, boys! This is absolutely key to scoring with a drop - dead beautiful hottie that you may think is otherwise outside of your reach. Well, trust me, on both counts, she is not….You can get just about every un-attached woman you have your heart set on if you know the right moves. And being funny is just about the best smooth move to have!
Look - let's be honest. Just like a REALLY rich guy, or a celebrity or professional athlete, a really attractive woman has lots of options. And of course, we all know there are plenty of good looking people in the world to pick from, right? Well…would it surprise you to know that EVERY one of my knockout girlfriends just MELTS for a funny guy…As a matter of fact, it is almost always these guys that we have crushes on, yet they almost never know, or NEVER make the first move because they just realize it! How sad, right? Don't make this mistake guys, if you are funny…you are going to get just about anyone you want.
Now how do you make her know it? Just be yourself. Nothing is unfunnier, faster than a guy who is trying to be the life of the party personality type, but really is only drunk, obnoxious or mean spirited. A funny guy will ALWAYS win in the long run, even if the little battles do seem to go to the jocks, or the popular guy, or even the bad boy types…But that's only because most of YOU guys aren't approaching the women that you really want, and really DESERVE! Stop settling and be yourself - you would be shocked if you knew how many women in your life, at work, on campus or even in the apartment building are really THINKING about you while you aren't there. She's curious - but you've got to show her you've got the goods…And when I tell you , make her laugh and you are in, I'm not kidding.
Trust me - go for it and you will both thank me later!
How to Make Her Cry - Tears of Joy!
May 26, 2008
Let me give you guys yet another "inside secret" when it comes to making YOUR woman melt at the mere thought of your smiling face….You've got to learn how to make her cry before you can really call her yours. And no, I'm not talking about crying tears of hurt, pain or anguish, but rather…tears of complete and utter joy at being lucky enough to have you in her life! It's interesting because I spent a few minutes reading some of the other "articles" being written by other guys on keeping your woman happy and yearning for you, and most of them have some sort of over simplified rudimentary understanding of the female brain, that quite frankly - is way off!
You see, fundamentally, women are far simpler when it comes to finding happiness in a relationship. Sure we want nice things, and yes - I know some women are money hungry, gold digging and opportunistic, but really - and I mean this totally sincerely, this is a VERY small part of the female population. I think women are MUCH more complicated that our male counterparts - but when it comes to love, we are actually, by and large, quite simple.
We want you to be able to make us cry with the gratitude of finding true love. We want to feel comfortable, safe and happy in your arms. We want to know that in this uncertain world, with all of the things that are up to fate, circumstance and chance, the things that are unshakably true are those that you bring to our lives. Yes, we want you to be our rock, and for 98 out of 100 women, this has nothing to do with the size diamond you can buy your girl. 
So yes, there are ALL kinds of different techniques you can learn to pick up just about ANY beautiful woman you want. I know because I write and help guys like you with some of them. But at the end of the day, with all of that aside, and in celebration of the holiday season, just learn how to make your girl cry - and with her happy tears streaming down her face, you will learn the REAL secret of getting everything you want with the woman in your life today. I promise..:-)
How to Make Her Jealous - Get Those Green Glands Going!
May 26, 2008
Rumor has it that when God created jealousy, he patterned the whole experience on the model of a very mad woman. Because if you've ever been around a woman who's jealously glands have been kicked into high gear, you truly understand the old saying about " hell having no fury quite like a woman scorned!"
When it comes to wanting what we can't get, or even WORSE, someone else getting what was once OURS, a woman who loses out in a relationship to another woman can be downright dangerous! Ever watch a Jerry Springer weekend marathon? You can hours and hours of great TV on nothing more than a bunch of women who have lost their boyfriends or husbands to other femme fatales at work, play, or even sometimes in their very own FAMILIES!
How does this help you? Well, if you are having problems in your relationship and she is starting to pull back or away…If you think she's having second thoughts or even if the spark or fire just seems to have gone away…the QUICKEST way to test her commitment and STOKE the fire is getting her jealous..:-) Find one of her friends, preferably one who she has a little competitive thing going with, and just be a WEE bit extra friendly next time you see her…Or how about getting a little bit extra FRIENDLY with the girls at the restaurant next time you guys go? I'll tell you the truth, just about ANYONE will do if you are trying to get her green glands going - if she's a red blooded woman, underneath that calm demeanor lies a hot tempered diva who WILL protect her man from the intruding eyes of another woman.
I've seen whole relationships get back on track using this simple trick. I've even played along on a few of them and almost been beaten up for helping, too. Trust me when I tell you, nothing kicks a relationship in it's rear end quite like the thought of another woman getting her hands on your man, EVEN if moments before, you were counting the moments to kick him to the curb. I know, I've been there too!
Ok, ok…jealously can be a bad thing too…So you NEED to use it in moderation. But it will almost always get you what you want - so when necessary…use it!
